Joy Wasted with KB Dickey

Absolutely hate it when folks just drop by my place without giving a heads-up. It seriously gets on my nerves, you know? There are a few reasons why it grinds my gears.

First off, I’m all about personal space and boundaries. We all have our little bubble, right? When someone waltzes into that bubble without an invite, it feels like they’re crossing a line.

Secondly, my place is like my sanctuary. It’s where I go to chill, relax, and recharge. Having someone barge in unannounced messes with that whole zen vibe.

Lastly, I’m big on control. I like having control over my environment, my routines, and who I let into my space. When someone just shows up, it feels like they’re taking that control away.

So, how do I deal with it? Well, here are a few tricks I’ve picked up:

1. Speak Up: Communication is key. I’ve learned to tell my friends and family about my boundaries. Most of the time, they don’t even realize it bugs me.

2. Set the Rules: If there are times when I’m cool with visitors, I make those times crystal clear. That way, people know when it’s okay to drop by.

3. Secret Signal: This one’s a bit quirky, but I have a secret signal with my close buddies. If they use it, I know it’s important, and it’s okay to let them in.

4. Be Polite but Firm: When someone shows up out of the blue, I try to be nice but firm in redirecting them. I might say something like, “Hey, I’m in the middle of something, but can we plan a visit for another time?”

5. Waiting Zone: If I’ve got space, I’ve created a little waiting area near the door. If someone pops by uninvited, they can chill there for a bit while I wrap up whatever I’m doing.

6. Self-Reflection: Every now and then, I think about why this bugs me so much. Is it just about boundaries, or is there something deeper? Understanding my own feelings helps me talk to others about it.

Remember, it’s okay to feel irked by uninvited guests. The trick is finding a balance between guarding your personal space and keeping the peace with your peeps through clear, respectful communication.