Joy Wasted with KB Dickey

Hey Fam,

Sometimes you are just tired of fighting! Sick and tired of being sick and tired! Let’s dive into a topic that’s as real as it gets – knowing when to throw in the towel without feeling like a total quitter. I know, I know, we’re all about perseverance, fighting for what we want, not giving up on relationships, goals, or anything in between. But guess what? Life isn’t always black and white, and sometimes the bravest thing we can do is say, “Enough is enough.”

So, here’s the deal. We’ve been programmed to associate quitting with failure. But, let’s be honest, there’s a fine line between being persistent and banging your head against a brick wall. How do we know when it’s time to gracefully step back?

1. The Emotional and Mental Toll:

• It’s like our inner GPS. When pursuing something starts taking a toll on your emotional and mental well-being, it’s time to pay attention. Constant stress, anxiety, and sleepless nights are not badges of honor. They’re red flags.

2. Gut Feelings Aren’t Whispers, They’re Shouts:

• We all have that gut feeling – an inner voice that knows stuff before our brain catches up. When that gut feeling is screaming, “This isn’t it,” it’s time to listen. Don’t ignore the shouts because you’re afraid of being labeled a quitter.

3. When the ‘Why’ Fades:

• Remember why you started? Yeah, that thing. When the fire that fueled your journey dims, it’s okay to reassess. If the ‘why’ isn’t resonating anymore, it’s not quitting; it’s evolving.

4. Lord, Help Us: The Ultimate Cry:

• Sometimes, we need divine intervention. When you find yourself on your knees with a “Lord, help us” cry, it’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a surrender. It’s acknowledging that you’ve done your part, and now you need a sign.

5. The Cost of Not Giving Up:

• Consider the cost of not giving up. Is it your mental health, your self-esteem, or your peace of mind? When holding on comes at too high a price, it’s time to let go.

So, How Do We Quit Without Being a Quitter?

• Acknowledge that endings can be beginnings. It’s not quitting; it’s making room for something new. Shift the perspective from failure to growth.
• Communicate your decision with grace. It’s okay to say, “This isn’t serving me anymore,” without feeling like you’re letting anyone down.
• Give yourself permission to evolve. Life is a journey, not a one-way street. Embrace the detours and scenic routes.
• Seek support. Let your tribe in on your struggles. They might surprise you with wisdom, empathy, and the assurance that it’s okay to step back.

Remember, fam, knowing when to give up isn’t defeat; it’s wisdom. It’s understanding that our paths are winding, and sometimes, a detour is the shortcut we never knew we needed.

Stay resilient,
Joy Wasted