Joy Wasted with KB Dickey

Whew, let me tell you something—it took me decades to learn this lesson, and I’m still perfecting it. But one thing I know for sure? People will try to put their mess on you if you let them.

Their insecurities? Not your problem.
Their assumptions about you? Not your problem.
Their negative energy and misplaced judgments? Definitely not your problem.

Listen, people will always have something to say. They critique the way you walk, talk, breathe, think, move, dress—you name it. And for what? Because they’re insecure.

It absolutely drives me bonkers when people come at me with their internal issues like it’s my responsibility to fix them. Newsflash: It’s not.

Let People Carry Their Own Bags

Imagine you’re walking through life, handling your own business, and here comes somebody with a monkey (their insecurity, their negativity, their assumptions). Instead of dealing with it themselves, they try to throw it on your back—hoping you’ll carry it for them.

Uh-uh. Nope. Not today, not ever.

That’s their monkey. That’s their burden. That’s their mess to clean up.

And from what I’ve seen on TV, monkeys are sneaky thieves—and so are the people who try to steal your joy! They just can’t believe that you are who you say you are, and it eats them up inside.

Pay attention to when these attacks happen. Notice the time of year, the day, the circumstances—there’s a pattern. These moments aren’t random; they’re red flags. The enemy loves to strike when you’re vulnerable, tired, or on the verge of something great.

So, take stock of the situation and don’t get caught off guard. Protect your peace and keep moving forward!

You Can’t Control People’s Perceptions

People think they know you. They assume they understand your intentions, your expressions, your choices. But guess what? They don’t. And instead of focusing on fixing their own life, they spend all their energy analyzing yours.

Have you noticed that the main people who claim they “don’t judge” or “don’t assume” are the same ones doing it? They’re full of opinions about your life but clueless about their own. If they worked on themselves half as much as they critiqued others, they’d actually get somewhere.

Here’s What You Do Instead

• Keep doing YOU.
• Move in peace.
• Be unapologetically yourself.
• Walk in confidence.
• Don’t waste a single second caring what they think.

Because at the end of the day, what they think is literally NONE of YOUR business.

So, like my girl Tabitha Brown says:
“Have a great day! And if you can’t have a great day, don’t go messing up somebody else’s. Period.”

That’s it. That’s the lesson. Now go out there and live unbothered. 💪🏾🔥