Joy Wasted with KB Dickey

You ever notice how some folks don’t really want help… they just want an audience?

They’ll call you, text you, or pull you to the side with a deep sigh and a dramatic pause like, “Girl, you won’t believe what happened…” and by the time they’re done, you’re feeling more drained than a phone on 1% with no charger in sight.

Now don’t get me wrong — everybody needs to vent sometimes. Life will throw you a curveball and you gotta let that steam out. But there’s a difference between venting to get clarity and complaining to stay stuck.

The ones you gotta watch out for? The professional complainers. They’ve made an Olympic sport out of finding the problem in every solution. You suggest a next step — they swat it down. You point to a silver lining — they paint it gray. You give a resource — they tell you why it won’t work.

Here’s the thing:
When you’re on a mission to grow, build, and make moves, you don’t have the mental energy to keep pouring into a bottomless cup. That’s time you could be using to solve your own problems, nurture your peace, and actually get somewhere.

So let me save you the headache: If they keep circling the same mountain with no intention of climbing it, you are not their hiking buddy.

You can listen with compassion, but you don’t have to camp out in their negativity. Learn how to wrap up the conversation with, “I hear you — I hope you find a solution,” and change the subject or move on. It’s not cold. It’s called protecting your mental space.

Because here’s the truth: People who only want to complain will eventually resent you if you actually help them — why? Because change means they can’t keep playing the same sad song on repeat.

And we’re too busy writing new chapters to keep dancing to the same tired tune.

Joy junkie!